tattling
During this lesson, we reviewed the four tattling rules (see handout below) and practiced the actions that help us remember them. We also emphasized that if someone is doing something we don't like, it is our job to say stop (if we don't say anything, how do they know it is bothering us?). Once we say stop, it is their job to stop immediately! We discussed some different scenarios to decide when it is appropriate to get adult help and when we should try to fix the problem ourselves. Finally, we watched a cool youtube video that helped us remember the tattle rules (see link below).
You can follow up at home by giving your child feedback when they tell you about something someone else is doing wrong. Let them know if they did the right thing because it was a dangerous or "now" problem (or that they CAN wait a few seconds for many problems when you are on the phone), remind them to try to solve problems themselves when there is no risk to anyone, and tell them that sometimes we just have to mind our own "beeswax." Especially if they have siblings, knowing the difference between when to tell, solve, or focus on themselves is vital to parent sanity!
Finally, remind your child that when a situation must be reported, it is their job to tell the closest safe adult. At school this might be a teacher, supervisor, or other school staff. At home and in the community, the closest safe adult may be a parent, coach, or neighbor. Discuss with your child who some safe adults are in each of the settings they spend significant time in.
Tell them that if they report something and it doesn't stop, they need to keep reporting until
someone listens and helps stop the behavior.
You can follow up at home by giving your child feedback when they tell you about something someone else is doing wrong. Let them know if they did the right thing because it was a dangerous or "now" problem (or that they CAN wait a few seconds for many problems when you are on the phone), remind them to try to solve problems themselves when there is no risk to anyone, and tell them that sometimes we just have to mind our own "beeswax." Especially if they have siblings, knowing the difference between when to tell, solve, or focus on themselves is vital to parent sanity!
Finally, remind your child that when a situation must be reported, it is their job to tell the closest safe adult. At school this might be a teacher, supervisor, or other school staff. At home and in the community, the closest safe adult may be a parent, coach, or neighbor. Discuss with your child who some safe adults are in each of the settings they spend significant time in.
Tell them that if they report something and it doesn't stop, they need to keep reporting until
someone listens and helps stop the behavior.
tattle questions music video
Here is a music video that reviews what we learned today!